Dave, I think you're missing the whole point here and obsessing on your 3:1 ratio too much. Yes, from the camera's perspective, two lights that are one stop apart will give you a 3:1 ratio as you said, assuming you are talking about the overall lighting to fill lighting, which is one way of denoting ratios. But it's not the only way. Ratios can also be denoted in terms of the relative light intensity of one light over the other light, which is how the Speedlites are set up and more specifically as the Group A light over the Group B light rather than main light over the fill light.
If you have a Sekonic light meter, it also denotes ratios the same way Canon does, one light relative to the other. Not the total light relative to the weaker one when you measure light intensity ratios (although, if you want to, you can also measure the total light against the fill which will give you the ratio you are talking about).
And here are a few other source that do the same (i.e. measure one light relative to the other):
http://www.vividlight.com/articles/1916.htm
http://www.studiolighting.net …for-portrait-photography/
You can also find similar references in book on lighting as well. Christopher Grey's "Master Lighting Guide" is one that comes to mind off the top of my head.
Long story short, Dave, you're talking oranges when I'm talking apples.