Hmm.
The short answer is, use enough power to get correct exposure.
But it's a bit more complicated than that.
You can look at it several ways. The flash power required for proper exposure depends on distance, aperture, ISO, and how the light is diffused (flash reflector, umbrella, softbox, diffusion panel, flash zoom setting).
Conversely, if your lights don't have enough power to get proper exposure at their maximum output, then you need to change one or more of those factors.
Determining the amount of power required can be done several ways. You can measure it with a flash meter; calculate it based on a flash unit's guide number, aperture and distance; let your camera's dedicated flash metering system adjust it automatically; or simply by trial-and-error, taking a shot, checking the histogram, and adjusting accordingly.
I don't know if I'm anywhere close to answering your question. If you can elaborate, perhaps we can explain further.