The 2nd official Random Discussion For TPBM Photo's and Photographers Thread (2)

Wanda I've been meaning to ask ..Do you know Crissa in people? .giggles have ya met ?

theague wrote in post #3621879
How can a country BAN you from spanking your own children. I thought that kind of thing only happened in Fiction...

By making it illegal. I think it has an age stipulation - like spanking any child under X age is against the law. I don't remember what X equals though. I never was good with algebra.

Miniflash wrote in post #3622236
Wanda I've been meaning to ask ..Do you know Crissa in people? .giggles have ya met ?

Yes, Crissa and I met about a year and a half ago. We took our kids to Walt Disney World together. I've known her online for about 12 or 14 years now, I think. She's awesome, eh?

Athena wrote in post #3622239
By making it illegal. I think it has an age stipulation - like spanking any child under X age is against the law. I don't remember what X equals though. I never was good with algebra.

LOL at the algebra. I agree with not spanking the little ones, they don't have the mental development to control their behavior or understand punishment. Indiana loses one kid a day, on average, to child abuse and neglect. Its scary.

Those kind of statistics make me physically ill.

Punishment is a very, very effective behavior modification technique, but ONLY if it is done properly. One of the biggest things people get wrong is timing. Punishment has to be immediate to work well. None of that "wait till your father gets home" bull. That's just psychological abuse.

Whew, ok. I'm off my psychologists soapbox now.

Wow Wanda that long ..thats so cool and yes shes AWEsome ...so are you !must be catchy ...lol she lives so close to me , I was wondering how ya met now it all makes some sort of sense .ya know I met my Andy online ..well from a gathering we both went to .

wanda and I have known each other for quite sometime, met IRL for a week a year and a half ago. We had lots of fun! The kids were well behaved too!!

Athena wrote in post #3622339
Those kind of statistics make me physically ill.

Punishment is a very, very effective behavior modification technique, but ONLY if it is done properly. One of the biggest things people get wrong is timing. Punishment has to be immediate to work well. None of that "wait till your father gets home" bull. That's just psychological abuse.

Whew, ok. I'm off my psychologists soapbox now.

Sorry to make ya ill. I agree with the timing thing. We've done time outs in the store, the parking lot, the zoo, nearly everywhere, lol. Now she almost never misbehaves when we're out. She saves it all for the privacy of home, and then she really lets loose sometimes!

Skrim17 wrote in post #3622354
We had lots of fun! The kids were well behaved too!!

We did!! and they were! We need to do it again! Oh wait, we are...

Eli easily misinterprets social cues, we are working hard on it. Part of it is his vivid imagination, other parts are a simple social immaturity and poor impulse control. Anoter child will chase him in a game and he will escalate to running away screaming that they are going to hurt him. It can be painfully frustrating, but he has grown a lot in the past year. Since I am tuned into it things can be better when I am around, but in school and camp it can be difficult if the folks around him don't realize what is going on.

roflmao over here. Mike was flipping channels and found Goldmember. Haven't seen this movie in years, but it is still hysterical!!!

Skrim17 wrote in post #3622376
Eli easily misinterprets social cues, we are working hard on it. Part of it is his vivid imagination, other parts are a simple social immaturity and poor impulse control. Anoter child will chase him in a game and he will escalate to running away screaming that they are going to hurt him. It can be painfully frustrating, but he has grown a lot in the past year. Since I am tuned into it things can be better when I am around, but in school and camp it can be difficult if the folks around him don't realize what is going on.

Matthew had similar issues with somewhat different reactions. The year of grade 2 is socially amazing though. When I think about how he was a year ago - it's like a different child. They grow up SO much in grade 2.

Skrim17 wrote in post #3622376
Eli easily misinterprets social cues, we are working hard on it. Part of it is his vivid imagination, other parts are a simple social immaturity and poor impulse control. Anoter child will chase him in a game and he will escalate to running away screaming that they are going to hurt him. It can be painfully frustrating, but he has grown a lot in the past year. Since I am tuned into it things can be better when I am around, but in school and camp it can be difficult if the folks around him don't realize what is going on.

Plus he has a boy brain. One of the most interesting things about having our kids together was seeing how much they were different because of different gender, yet so much alike because almost the same age. Allie is almost TOO tuned into social cues. She'll even reject a stuffed animal or doll if she thinks the facial expression isn't just right.

Athena wrote in post #3622377
roflmao over here. Mike was flipping channels and found Goldmember. Haven't seen this movie in years, but it is still hysterical!!!

LOL I've never watched it but I've heard a lot about it.

Athena wrote in post #3622383
Matthew had similar issues with somewhat different reactions. The year of grade 2 is socially amazing though. When I think about how he was a year ago - it's like a different child. They grow up SO much in grade 2.

I'm hoping for a lot of growth in maturity for Allie in first grade, lol.

Well - she's a girl. It could well happen a year earlier.

Athena wrote in post #3622415
Well - she's a girl. It could well happen a year earlier.

That's an encouraging thought, thanks!

Does no one have a photo of unfairness for TPBM?