Brian - like you, and others (notably, Andy - pxl8), I prefer natural lit shots without flash. The shots just look more, well, natural imho. The series of shots that you've posted are all nice, but I honestly prefer the natural light shot, it just seems more natural on the eye. Of course, shooting with natural light is a lot more restricting as we all know...
John - I don't mind using shallow DOF, not everything is about a huge DOF imho, and a shallow DOF quite often helps isolate the subject. You'll see that I've used that technique quite a fair few times
Flash is just generally easier to use in most instances, and I think that's why we use it mostly. AV + flash is something I've started experimenting with more, and it has potential, providing you can get the fill flash balance right, and diffuse properly. I'm still learning how to diffuse the light more effectively, it's one of the things that I'm very unhappy about (in terms of my 'performance').
Brian - the newer cameras do let you do more with high ISO, they are SOOOOO much better! I reckon you can probably get away with AV mode, fill flash and larger apertures and higher ISOs and have acceptable levels of sharpness and noise, providing the ambient light is high enough of course. Australian sunlight is rather harsh for most times of the day, when it is softer (morning/evening), the light levels drop by a few stops, making it even harder to get the images.
I'd rather have Canon making a full frame 6mp DSLR with large pixels that really drop the noise down, especially at higher ISOs, than a 22mp beast like the Mark III. Sadly, marketing denotes technology, not the technology itself. Imagine a 6mp, full frame, CMOS sensor with the latest sensor technology from Canon, it would be wonderful! Add a MPE-65 to that beast, so you don't have to crop and lose resolution due to pixel peeping and voila, a nice macro camera it would be imho.
Dave