I knew the shot was not exposed correctly, I was just trying to figure out how to get it right in camera the first time.
I now know that I would have had to accept more blown highlights in the background in order to expose her face properly.
I really couldn't have used fill flash as my the max flash sync is 1/250 Sec on the 40D. The shot was taken at 1/5000 Sec; thus in order to achieve a SS of 1/250 Sec I would have had to use a much smaller aperature, eliminating the background blur that I was after.
What flash are you using? I personally have always been afraid of flash photography. I just recently started using one for a lot of things and am getting much better results. I always wondered about the 1/250 sync and found that the 580EX and some others have high speed sync, which how I understand it the flash is longer and last while the mirror is up and shutter open so that you can use it at pretty much any shutter speed. You have to have a flash that offers that though. I'm sure there is a better explination of how it works, but this is my lamemans version. 

