Question to Female Photographers

If thats all she's worried about - then she has nothing to worry about

takeyourpic wrote in post #4146535
I guess this might be something to worry about, but I prefer to worry about whether the entire bridal party is going to want shots of them skinny dipping in the fountain out in front of the reception hall and then want me to get in there with them. I am afraid that I don't know how to swim very well...

That's why you put Water Wings in your camera bag!

To the OP, you could ask those men if THEY had just been swimming in the fountain, and was the water cold?

personally, i wouldnt really have a problem with it ( but this is just me) i think men drunk is one of the funniest things your ever going to see. and plus you can always throw it up on those sites where is says cost of wedding 33k, cost of photog 3k, and cost of photog putting a group of grooms men on thatguy.com...PRICELES​S!!

i grew up around guys all of my life, and i have been around the marine corps for all of my adult life. and the fact that guys are exposing themselves left and right has kind of numbed me to feeling strange about seeing their stuff.

i wouldnt get all bent up about it. i would spend more time laughing at them.

but like i said. thats just me. im not a wedding photog, and i dont get offended easily.

shannon

I can speak from experience on this one. In the past 2 weeks I've had 2 guys contact me requesting nude photos of them for their wife/girlfriend. One of them went into great detail about how he wanted them to be erotic. They saw my boudoir gallery on my website. I simply told them I don't photograph males nude or semi-nude. You just have to draw a line some where.

MrsOpie wrote in post #4151781
I can speak from experience on this one. In the past 2 weeks I've had 2 guys contact me requesting nude photos of them for their wife/girlfriend. One of them went into great detail about how he wanted them to be erotic. They saw my boudoir gallery on my website. I simply told them I don't photograph males nude or semi-nude. You just have to draw a line some where.

im not a lawyer or anything, could that be sexism though? discrimination or something. you'll shoot women, but not men?

i realize that it is your personal choice to not want to shoot nekkid men, and are probably more comfortable with women just because you are one.

i find men to be so funny, and kind of lame, but thats probably why most of my friends are guys. i am more uncomfortable with women than i am men.

You have got to be kidding.... schlong exposing?

Even as a foolish goofy guy, I still wouldn't take the picture. When people are drunk, anything can happen. Cases like guys making sexual movements behind an unknowing girl, girls dancing in a fashion where they're totally flashing the world, or anything else like that is just NOT something I shoot. I leave these crazy parts of the day OUT of the documentary pictures. If someone asks me to shoot them sticking their dong out, I'd just tell them "My company does not serve that type of photography. Sorry".

shannyD wrote in post #4151810
im not a lawyer or anything, could that be sexism though? discrimination or something. you'll shoot women, but not men?

i realize that it is your personal choice to not want to shoot nekkid men, and are probably more comfortable with women just because you are one.

i find men to be so funny, and kind of lame, but thats probably why most of my friends are guys. i am more uncomfortable with women than i am men.

I spoke to my husband about taking pictures of men nude and he said he didn't feel comfortable with me doing a session like that or being in a situation like that. I wouldn't call it sexism because I don't care either way its purely out of respect for my husband.

MrsOpie wrote in post #4151938
I spoke to my husband about taking pictures of men nude and he said he didn't feel comfortable with me doing a session like that or being in a situation like that. I wouldn't call it sexism because I don't care either way its purely out of respect for my husband.

regardless of your husbands feelings ( and i get it i totally respect that) what if some guy got bent out of shape, and decided to make a fuss about it? not saying you personally, but anyone who has made the choice to not shoot men, and only women.

could there be legal repercussions?

and im asking because i now live in the sue happy state, and this came up with a friend of mine who had asked a photog to shoot her and her husband, and she had said the same thing. that she didnt want to shoot men in situations like that.

long story short.....hes now angry with this photographer, and thinking about pressing legal action for sex discrimination or something like that.

( and yes they did ask me to do it, but i dont feel like i would give them what they wanted because i am not a pro and i also dont know anything about studio lighting, and i also want people to get what they wanted the first time around)

Send them my way.

cdifoto wrote in post #4152046
Send them my way.

i bet you live up to your nick name thing dont you? lol

Mrs. Opie, kudos to you for putting your marriage above your job. Much respect

And absolutely not could you get sued for not wanting to photograph naked men. Just the safety reasons alone. Also, it's a completely different field of photography. Photographing nude males is a different field than photographing women in a similar situation. I would have NO CLUE where to start with taking erotic photographs of men.

shannyD wrote in post #4151810
im not a lawyer or anything, could that be sexism though? discrimination or something. you'll shoot women, but not men?

i realize that it is your personal choice to not want to shoot nekkid men, and are probably more comfortable with women just because you are one.

i find men to be so funny, and kind of lame, but thats probably why most of my friends are guys. i am more uncomfortable with women than i am men.

there is a difference between employing someone and working with someone, in this case it's up to the photog whom they want to work with. It would be different it they were hiring an assistant and didn't pick one based on gender, but since it's a client most states all you to reserve the right to work with or not work with someone.

I've been doing wedding off and on for many moons and I have NEVER had a drunk man expose himself. All they want to do is flirt ( just like any drunk human and maybe kiss you on the cheek goodbye.

MrsOpie wrote in post #4151938
I spoke to my husband about taking pictures of men nude and he said he didn't feel comfortable with me doing a session like that or being in a situation like that. I wouldn't call it sexism because I don't care either way its purely out of respect for my husband.

Same here. I have had male models asking for nude shots and I decided not to do it because of respect for my husband. He said he wouldnt really mind as long as someone is around so I am safe, but I just dont feel it's right.

However, if this situation as mentioned in OP would arise in a wedding and I wasnt too surprised in that moment, I would snap it. But I sure wouldnt make a session out of it

I haven't yet had wedding issues, and can't imagine any in the future. I'm big and scary, with an even bigger confidence level, and have a no-nonsense attitude.

And if it did happen ... well, I lived in a co-ed dorm at Olds College (highest alcohol consumption per capita of all post-secondary institutions in North America the years I attended - yes, I contributed) - there's nothing anyone can do that I haven't already seen!