Really, this is most embarrassing to even ask. I've been very diligent about metering my lights, making sure the light meter, lights, and camera all match. But I have been unhappy in how harsh the light looks. It has finally hit me, that sure I've been metering the lights, but I think they are too strong, or too far away, or something not right. I have Photogenic 1500 lights, 2 of them and 1 750. I have a giant softbox from Calumet, and a 24x24 Photogenic softbox.
This weekend I had the giant softbox at camera left at about a 70 degree angle and the smaller softbox right beside my camera. The camera was about 20' from the backdrop and about 14' from the subjects. The boxes were approx 8 1/2' high and man, were the shadows behind the subjects awful! The only way to get rid of the shadows, was to move the fill closer and it ended up almost directly across from the key light. So it looked completely and totally fake, PLUS the light is so harsh. Where's the softness come from? How do you decide how strong to make the lights? I'm just not seeing it right I guess. I thought with that bigger softbox that maybe I would not even have to use the fill, but I don't have the hang of the reflector down yet. Darn thing is always twisting around and getting in the picture, so I hate it. Probably just too big!
Oh, and I was shooting ISO 100, ss 1/125, and F8 or 9. I was totally worn out from fighting with it all day.
The question is, how do I "see" the light on the subject before I shoot? or meter? I have the modeling lights on at all times, but it seems to me even when I change the flash intensity the modeling light stays the same.

