a better way to handle the spill would have been to move the umbrella closer to the subject.
in this case, in controlling spill, distance to background is only relevant relatively, or when compared to the distance between the light and subject. if you are 8 feet from the bg and the light is 8 feet from you, the bg is getting 2 stops less light, which you are still able to see in the image. move the light in to 4 feet, and the bg is getting 4 stops less light, not contributing much if anything to the exposure.
i would also suggest moving the main light higher. if the shadow cast by the main light were moving more downward, you would get so much shadow in the crevice on the cheek. also if the main light were more in front of the subject you would be getting more light into the eye socket. for starters try and keep the main light catchlight at 11 o clock.
the meter being hot doesn't surprise me, there can be a discrepancy between the meter and the camera. using my 30d, i often think shots are underexposed, with the 5d, the meter and the camera generally agree. there is a global calibration setting on my meter to compensate for this.