I don't understand why a light meter would be hopeless in this situation. Now let me first say that I do not have a light meter (although one is on the way from B&H as I type), and I have never shot under those specific conditions. But, if I understand correctly, the black background or white highlights of the flower will not "fool" the light meter (as it can your in-camera meter) and the meter is reading the actual light falling on your subject. Therefore the given exposure should be correct.
You obviously have a system that works for you, and that's great. I am just trying to gather information to improve my photography skills.
I think the issue is that the post by Glenn NK should have said,
"My experience with flower closeups differs somewhat from this; I use a black velvet backdrop for some flowers (either to set them off better or get rid of a messy bg), and the reflected light meter is hopeless in this situation."
A light meter in the camera is a 'light meter' and the light meter held in hand with a reflected light lens is a 'light meter' and the light meter with a hemisphere is a 'light meter', too! But light meter in the camera is a 'reflected light meter' and the light meter held in hand with a reflected light lens is a 'reflected light meter' and the light meter with a hemisphere is an 'incident light meter'. Our discussions should try to state things in a specific, not generic, way so as to be understood appropriately.
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