I will give the custom function a try and see if that helps. I never use it at weddings so I am getting used to it.
I do not believe this addresses the issue, but feel free to test. The Custom Function(s) enable/disable the Auto Shutoff. The Custom Function does not disable the battery save sleep mode of the flash, which is source of the non-response to PW. My experience has been the only reliable way to disable the battery save sleep mode, which causes lack of response to PW trigger, is put the EX flash in Slave Mode.
Also I have the very annoying and very distracting (to children and brides) flashing red light.
I have never had anyone comment or complain about the faint red Slave indicator light. Are you sure it bothers them, or you? If it bothers people, just point it in another direction, or put some gaffer tape over it. 430EX was built to perform basic TTL autoflash on-the-go. You are modifying a $200 TTL auto metering hotshoe to behave as radio triggered manual flash, and you want perfection in features?
When in Slave mode I cannot quickly control the power of the flash.
I do not understand. When in Manual, whether in Manual or Manual Slave, the settings are... well, Manual. How does flash power adjustment differ whether in Manual vs. Manual Wireless Slave Mode? I'm confused.