those are all very valid points.. i just like the harsher back lighting.. i have some that i took with out the back light and i didn't like it.. look really boring..
well here are some more from tonight's shoot.. am i posting too much?
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Not sure if I should tell this as you seem to take the critique too personal. But since you posted it here you are:
I am afraid this is not a back lighting. ( you probably ment rim lighting) This is a side lighting that completely disformed the young father's face. There is nothing natural or flattering in this.
I understand every one is different and someone might like the shot though













