So I have been booked to shoot the wedding of my X-gf from last year....

I really love the girl and we obviously didn't break up on bad terms. She really loves me too. We really only broke up because of her parents, being chinese her parents would flip out if they knew she was dating a white guy. So we ended the relationship and have kept in contact ever since.

Well her new engineer boyfriend just proposed to her and the wedding is in the fall. She booked me to shoot the wedding and I obviously cut her a deal because I am a sucker and she is gorgeous and I know she will have a very nice & big traditional chinese wedding (perfect for my portfolio, this is the market I want to be in).

Should I feel weird that I'm photographing my x-girlfriends wedding? Do you think she told her future husband that I was her boyfriend a year ago? Will he kill me or her if she slips and tells him if she hasn't already??

More at 11.

not like she or he only had on boyfriend/girlfriend in their life so prob he wont care. if asked (by him) id just say really good friend from long ago... leave it up to her to tell him if she feels its important.

too bad u dont live in Hawaii. mixed marriages are the norm here. im half oriental, half irish.

Interesting. Not something i'd do.

If her parents remember you that might be awkward.
Personally, it would be awkward enough for me to not want to do it - but the portfolio additions would be very nice, I agree.

form wrote in post #7258116
More at 11.

howzitboy wrote in post #7258134
not like she or he only had on boyfriend/girlfriend in their life so prob he wont care. if asked (by him) id just say really good friend from long ago... leave it up to her to tell him if she feels its important.

too bad u dont live in Hawaii. mixed marriages are the norm here. im half oriental, half irish.

I agree, I have dated many asian girls without a problem.
Some parents are just more strict/traditional I guess.
Yeah I just really hope he never asks how we know each other.
I have a feeling her and I will sit down and have a conversation about it some time before the wedding.
If I was the groom and my bride hired one of her x boyfriends to do something on our wedding date I would not be the happiest.

tim wrote in post #7258200
Interesting. Not something i'd do.

:o

darosk wrote in post #7258256
If her parents remember you that might be awkward.
Personally, it would be awkward enough for me to not want to do it - but the portfolio additions would be very nice, I agree.

Oh her parents never met me.
If they knew she was dating a white boy she would be chop sewy.

Yeah I was excited to hear that she was getting married and the first thought that came to mind was OMG I want to shoot your wedding!!
She is soo strikingly beautiful, very traditional, and not poor by any means.
I can envision a very beautiful traditional asian wedding.
Very nice portfolio booster + I love the girl so I give her discount, i'm not giving away my work or anything.
I'm still going to make profit, but I'm just going to go even more out of my way to do more and go the extra extra mile for her.
I have never cried at a wedding but I have a feeling I might shed a tear for this one because it's going to be soo nice + the bride is soo close to me.

When the time comes, don't say, "I do."

tim wrote in post #7258200
Interesting. Not something i'd do.

I did one of my ex-gf's weddings. For free no less (that was my wedding present to them). Of course we are still very good friends - and over the years I got to know who is now her husband and we get along quite well - lots of the same interests and such. They are like family to me really.

Of course it was like 5 years after we broke up that she got married so it wasn't quite so fresh.

Perhaps strange to some but...eh...it worked out.

form wrote in post #7260976
When the time comes, don't say, "I do."

OdiN1701 wrote in post #7261141
I did one of my ex-gf's weddings. For free no less (that was my wedding present to them). Of course we are still very good friends - and over the years I got to know who is now her husband and we get along quite well - lots of the same interests and such. They are like family to me really.

Of course it was like 5 years after we broke up that she got married so it wasn't quite so fresh.

Ouch, yeah I couldn't do a wedding for free. Far too much overhead, experience, bills, and equipment involved.
Good idea to give a wedding present though, I'll have to think of a really nice wedding present to give them on the day of their wedding.
I wish I could bring my videographer so I could document our great interaction and catch the surprise when I give her the gift and all the emotions because it would really be an amazing boost for my biz.

Maybe I'll use all the money paid to me to get a baller ass videographer to shoot her wedding.
and on the side he can document my service etc so to serve dual purposes... lol dam i wish!

OdiN1701 wrote in post #7261141
I did one of my ex-gf's weddings. For free no less (that was my wedding present to them). Of course we are still very good friends - and over the years I got to know who is now her husband and we get along quite well - lots of the same interests and such. They are like family to me really.

Of course it was like 5 years after we broke up that she got married so it wasn't quite so fresh.

Perhaps strange to some but...eh...it worked out.

Yep I was the same.. except it was 10 years prior to the wedding so not fresh at all

It was just like any other friends wedding to me.

I say if you feel comfortable doing it then why not?

form wrote in post #7260976
When the time comes, don't say, "I do."

great one! LOL!

Last year like 2007? Or last year like 2008?

Been there and done that--twice!

Two different women about ten years apart. One I dated in my early 20's and the second when I was between marriages myself--yeah, I did that twice, too.

bnlearle wrote in post #7261576
Last year like 2007? Or last year like 2008?

oooooh good question!

I don't remember the exact month we started dating, but I think it was around May 2007 around the time I first moved to philadelphia. So I guess it's almost 2 years ago, doesn't seem that long ago.

Never mind photography, write a screen play!