There's a wide range of values of density in both types; plain and graduated. If you're just wanting to try the effect, and therefore want only one of each type for now, I would recommend a 2-stop grad and a 3-stop plain. My reasoning is that in most landscapes, the sky is two stops brighter than the foreground - this is particularly true over water, so a 2-stop grad is the most useful. A 1-stop would be quite subtle, and a 3-stop would look unnatural in some cases, making the sky dimmer than its own reflection. For plain filters all you are looking for is to cut down light. You can do that so far just by closing the aperture, so if you're going to reduce light you might as well do it by a fair amount. Therefore the 3-stop would be a good amount.
Mark.