obnoxiousmom wrote in post #9936888
He is suffering a great deal. He hurts so much and he asked my step mom not to put him on a ventilator again. He told her he could be shocked back and given I.V Fluids but he is ready to go. She just couldnt let him go though and I dont think I would be any stronger or made a different decision in her shoes. He can nod his head and mouths words to us when he is awake but he becomes to restless and agitated when awake so they keep putting him under. He wants the ventilator out
They tried two more times to wean him off the ventilator this morning and he couldnt breath on his own so they put him back to sleep and will try again later. Im pretty sure we are getting close to the end with him
Let's hope his passing is peaceful, if in fact it is time.
My parents took very different approaches. My dad was 98, having lunch, took a bite, he slowly pitched his head forward, and by the time it reached his chest, he was gone. Mom spent months in a hospice facility dying slowly from kidney failure. The last few weeks were very sad. She was hallucinating, in and out of consciousness, and clearly not having fun. That was a relief when it ended. Dad was something of a surprise, but not really. I remember calling him on his 98th birthday, and asking how it felt to be that old. He answered, "Honestly, Tommy, I can't think of a single thing to recommend it." I miss his humor.