General Wedding Somewhat less Chit-Chatty of Late (Everyone's gotten busy) Thread (6)

sevillafox wrote in post #11293615
Good morning everyone.

I need to ask a small favor......keep me and my family in your thoughts today. I have come to the difficult decision that I need to no longer foster my cousin and move on from all of that. I feel terrible failing her but I can no longer put up with her issues...or rather will no longer put up with them.

Just send happy air to SW WI please?

Tiff,

I am so sorry it has come to this, but it is time to hang it up with this young lady. You have bent over backwards to support her and, from what you have said, she just doesn't get it.

Raising teenagers is a tough, tough task. You have an additional layer of difficulty in the fact that she is not your child. So, if she will not respond and not respect you and your family then your decision to send her away is the correct one.

Soon she will look back on her life and come to understand what an opportunity she has squandered.

I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Jim's right. We're keeping good thoughts and prayers for you today, Tiff. Take care of your family.

Thanks guys. I just spoke with her at school. She is going to be transported somewhere as she went into the guidance office and told the counselor that she was thinking about taking all of her pills. When she and I spoke there was much crying. She told me she wished she were dead. So, the school is obligated to do something. I will know more later.

Can anyone guess how much of a wreck I am?

Calm down. This is actually a good thing. She is calling out for help right now. As someone watching from the sidelines, it's not a bad choice. At the hospital, they sign her in for 24-72 hours of observation. Sometimes it will take a longer time. My friend's daughter was in the ward for 2 weeks. She did take the pills and was detoxed and then observed. She did some things to herself as well that were a sign of her mental state. After 2 weeks, she came home much different and resolved to do better. I had lunch with the Mom and daughter this week. They are doing great. Sometimes, it takes this to make a real change. Tiff, hang in there.

I am sorry you are having to go through this Tiff, my family has always dealt with somewhat similar issues with my sister, she has no respect and has an attitude of entitlement that was not taught to her by the way she was raised. She may just need more help than you can give her right now.

Know that you are in our thoughts and prayers, I hope you can find a solution that will help her and also give you back the opportunity to focus on your cute little boys and husband, they are your top priority.

Thanks guys. I know it is a good thing she will be taken care of. Still, the rest of it. What a mess.

Just a note to self....this is who I'm doing this for.

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As I said before, your primary obligation is to the two young lives YOU brought into this world. You have gone far beyond what you owe this girl by attempting to do what should have been done for her by those responsible for her. It's probably better to have her out of your house.

Sleep well, Kiddo.

I am so angry right now I am shaking. I found evidence on Chevelle's facebook that she had a drinking binge a week ago and was invited to smoke pot and declined only because she was too drunk. I went into her room and found two empty beer cans, a bunch of empty containers of Dramamine and two huge candle lighters (of mine) in her purse.

I am SO not feeling guilty anymore.

You have an obligation to yourself and your family first, Tif. You have nothing to feel guilty or bad about. You gave it your best try but sometimes, teenagers into their young adult years are beyond impossible. Sadly, they often learn very hard lessons or worse. I think you exceeded your obligation to help her and it is okay to be done.
Now, go find some snuggle time with your tots and then have a nice glass of wine

^^^ Agree with Mo 100% Tiffany. You are an angel for giving it a try.

Morning all! How is life today? We had some wicked storm last night. I don't think it was even predicted. all leaves off trees today.

SuzyView wrote in post #11299489
Morning all! How is life today? We had some wicked storm last night. I don't think it was even predicted. all leaves off trees today.

Morning, Suzie...

We have a tree down in front of our office building. I heard lots of thunder last night!

Cold and dreary and way too early here.

Storm was a big one here. People are still out of power. I'm looking at buying a large leaf blower tomorrow.

We were out for about 6 hr. (just under). After PEPCO promised everyone they were taking steps to ensure that it wouldn't happen again. God help us if there's any snow or ice this winter. You won't be able to tell DC from the middle of the Atlantic in a night satellite photo.

Suzie & Jim - how about (looks like the only chance I'll get) Dec. 3 or 4 for Temple/Brookside lights? Maybe Dec. 9, but that's the only other remote possibility - Ann's been doing a wonderful job filling the schedule . . .