there no easy way for us Birders Roy as we get big birds close and distant, and the same with small birds
I set my 500 at about 60/70ft ,dof is greater the further away from your subject and most birds are indeed further away, i just think the above gives the best overall MA for real life shots.
Also when a birds close say 20/30ft away its easyier to see you have your focus point on the eye SO after setting MA as above i just check its not a mile out on a close subject .ie a some clear writeing on a box at around 30ft away.
best to use a remote, fast shutter, tripod, to rule out camera shake when doing the MA.
Rob.