I have a very good grasp of general photography and my flash and how to use it attached to my camera. How to read the light to a degree. SOOOO, I stepped to a whole new ballgame. Off camera flash. I bought a Westcott 43" umbrella and stand can cactus v4. Welcome to the world of manual flash. 
here is the questions I have so far. I have been reading Strobist.com A LOT. have a good idea. I have a grey target that I have been using to read exposure and white balance. I don’t' have a flash meter. I have been playing around and have my flash (580exii) set to 1/8 power. camera around 800 iso/ 100-125 shutter / f4-8 (lens goes to 2.8) just tinkering around.
now you know what I have. here is the question
1) what is good basic setting. let’s say I have umbrella as a shoot through. umbrella high subject left behind me, roughly 6-8 feet from subject (wife) what is a good setting to have flash set to?
2) good way to meter? put camera on center point metering and meter her face. snap picture and see what it does, then adjust shutter, or f-stop (depending on DOF I want) and or iso.
3)lets say I want background 1-2 stops underexposed of subject. what is best way to do that without having to run to flash and adjust that. meter background ( ex: iso 800/125/f5.6) and I want wife to be proper exposed based on flash, speed up shutter speed one stop to underexpose background one stop?
4) off subject question. one change in iso is equal to how many stops of light? if I want from iso 100 to iso 200. what is that equivalent to say f-stop. one stop of light is f1.8 to f2.0 or one click faster in shutter speed. is that equivalent to one stop of iso? (sorry camera is not in front of me so don't have exact numbers.

