You don't necessarily need a "sprocket" polarizer to mount in the holder. You have a crop camera...plenty easy to mount a regular CPL to your lens, then either hand-hold the GND filter in front, or just mount the adapter ring to the front of the CPL, attach the holder, and slide in the filter.. You shouldn't have any problems with vignetting due to the crop factor, unless you're constantly at 10mm focal length. I shoot with a full frame camera, and at times I do the very same thing without any issues.
As far as GND filters go, IMO its best to use them as opposed to masking/blending multiple exposures. Much better to get it right in the camera and minimize processing time. I'd also avoid the home made variable ND filter thing...I've seen some results from a DIY filter where the IQ was less than desirable (and skip the welding glass too). The real thing (Singh-Ray Vari-ND or Vari-N-Duo) produces excellent results without any type of colorcast or IQ issues. There are plenty of reasons why good filters are somewhat expensive...quality of materials, workmanship, and the end result. I wouldn't scrimp on filters...save and get good ones and you'll be ahead of the game.
Start with a quality CPL and build from there. And as long as you're using quality filters, stacking isn't a problem...just need to be mindful of your focal length as far as vignetting goes. If you do decide on using GND's, get a holder that's convertible (able to add/remove slots) such as the Lee foundation kit holder (better) or the Cokin Z-Pro (so-so). Avoid the Cokin P-holder if you can...fixed slots, not adjustable.