How does your 100-400 feel on your 500D? It might balance better with a battery grip on the camera.
I use some even larger lenses and a battery grip definitely makes a difference with the overall balance and feel.
I've just used motor drives, film winders, power boosters and now WFT and battery grips on my cameras for 25+ years. I sort of feel uncomfortable using a camera without one (but sometimes do, to save size and weight when hiking, etc. I still prefer a camera with a removeable grip... Which tends to steer me away from the 1D series.)
For me one of the biggest things is vertical controls... I shoot a lot of verticals. Sometimes when taking 2000 to 4000 shots in a day, it's also nice to have an alternative means of tripping the shutter... Otherwise my and starts to cramp up from the sheer repetition.
I don't really need the extra batteries since I carry plenty of extras in a photo vest, plus a single batt with a full charge takes a lot of shots (I use the LCD minimally and never use the built-in flash, so hardly ever see a battery getting low).
But it's entirely up to you whether you use one or not. In no way is it a "mandatory" accessory.